Starting preschool is a big deal in Japan. It's a “big kid” step, and as such can be a mix of excitement and stress for the kid, Anthony included. It puts parents in a difficult situation, because while you want to play up the excitement, you do so at the risk of playing up the stress. He gets, for example, the excitement of a new backpack and thermos, but then has then has the stress of having to carry them. Of course, just going can be stressful in and of itself.
One big difference to Anthony between daycare and preschool is that he now gets to bring his own lunch. This is a big deal, and because of the masterful way in which Fumie handled it, it's a big deal that is devoid of stress.
First, she got him a Shimajiro bento box. (“Bento” means “boxed lunch”.) Shimajiro is a young cartoon tiger character from a magazine that we get every month, with lots of age-appropriate educational activities for Anthony (we've been getting it for years, as a gift from Fumie's mom, and the activities keep in step with his age). The Shimajiro stuff is excellent for parents, and of course the kids love it. We all like Shimajiro. (Shimajiro's mornic web site is less lovely, and won't let me link to the bento box marketing page!)
In addition, the rest of the lunch-related things are Shimajiro (chopsticks, spoon and fork, bag to carry it all in), so it makes a nice set whose neatness even Anthony can appreciate and enjoy.
As the Mom, Fumie is of course concerned with preparing a healthy meal, but that doesn't matter if he doesn't eat it, so she puts a lot of effort (forethought, testing, and execution) into making fun and tasty meals.
The bento in the picture at the top of this post is the second one he brought to school. The cooked carrots are cut into shapes (airplane, and teddy/Shimajiro heads). The apple slice is in the profile of a bunny. He loves everything in it. It was all made fresh in the morning, just before he left. Fumie made sure that he got to “help” make it, so he had “vested ownership”, so to speak. The same was done with his first school bento, shown here.
It wasn't actually his first bento, though. A week prior, Fumie had conceived a “preschool pretend lunch day” with Anthony, where she prepared a bento for him and he ate it while pretending he was at preschool. It was all fun and excitement, and he really enjoyed it.
By the way, when I said that the bento experience is devoid of stress, I was talking about Anthony. It's highly stressful for Fumie because it's so much work and so much is riding on it. He might feel stress and pressure if he can't finish on time, so she's made sure that he can handle the setup and cleanup of all the bento things himself. (Not all bento boxes sold for his age are actually appropriate for his age.) She prepares each bento so that it's easy and fun to eat, and has positioned the whole experience as one where things go smoothly and he feels accomplishment.
I wouldn't have even thought of most of this stuff; she's really done an exceptional job with this.
(All this worry about “stress and pressure” might make it sound like we're trying to shield him from the world, but it's just the opposite. The preschool is very much of the “don't do for them, teach and help them” school of thought, which is one reason we chose it. He has a lot of new responsibilities now -- like eating lunch without help -- but let's not forget that he's still only three years old. The weight of the world is something to be borne in increments.)
During a normal week, Anthony brings a bento four days (Wednesday is always a half day, so lunch is at home), and the bento is still the focus of those days. When he wakes up in the morning, he always wants to know whether today is a bento day, and he's proud to carry the bento himself.
Rice with vegetable furikake
Weiners cooked to look like octopi
Bite-sized shiitake mushrooms
An egg wrap with a spinach-like vegetable
In the end, it's food, so it has its own built in measure with which to gauge success: He's never left a single bite uneaten.
You can see all his bentos, updated each morning one is made, at the Anthony's Recent Bentos page.