10th-Anniversary Fish Pie (Really)
10 Years Ago Today -- Kyoto, Japan
10 Years Ago Today

Today was our 10th wedding anniversary.

It wasn't quite what I might have visualized 10 years ago – we were all pretty tired, and even normally robust Anthony was a bit under the weather – but Fumie and I got here together, and that's what it's all about.

Her mom invited us for Happy-Anniversary pie (a pie that Anthony felt the need to put candles in)...

Sea-Bream-Shaped Apple Pie The chocolate “card” on its dorsal fin says “ Happy 10 th Wedding Anniversary” -- Kyoto, Japan -- Copyright 2008 Jeffrey Eric Francis Friedl, http://regex.info/blog/
Nikon D200 + Nikkor 17-55mm f/2.8 @ 55 mm — 1/100 sec, f/3.2, ISO 400 — full exif
Sea-Bream-Shaped Apple Pie
The chocolate “card” on its dorsal fin says “Happy 10th Wedding Anniversary”

Anthony was torn between wanting to put candles in, and wanting to eat the chocolate card and chocolate eye...

Kyoto, Japan -- Copyright 2008 Jeffrey Eric Francis Friedl, http://regex.info/blog/
Nikon D200 + Nikkor 17-55mm f/2.8 @ 28 mm — 1/45 sec, f/5, ISO 400 — full exif

You may well be wondering why an apple pie for a 10th wedding anniversary, and why in the shape of a sea bream. (You may also be wondering “what is a sea bream?”)

To answer the last question first, a sea bream is a fish that looks like the pie above.

Fumie's mom chose an apple pie because the shop she went to (near where she grew up in another part of Kyoto) is well known for their apple pie. After having eaten it, I can understand why... it was absolutely fantastic.

As to why the shape of a fish, well, it's a play on words. The name of the fish ( 鯛 – tai ) is pronounced the same as the ending of one form of the word “auspicious” ( お目出度い – omedetai ), and so in Japanese culture, the fish has somewhat become linked to auspicious events. In olden days when food was the greatest currency, one would give an actual fish. These days, fish-shaped sweets are sometimes seen.

Fish-shaped apple pies are apparently quite rare. Thanks, mom!

I was thinking to take a picture of the 10 red roses that I got for Fumie, but today happened to have run across one of the first pictures I took with my D200, and thought I'd just post it instead....

Shutter Actuation #6 -- http://regex.info/blog/
Nikon D200 + Nikkor 28-80mm f/3.3-5.6 @ 80 mm — 1/125 sec, f/5.6, ISO 100 — full exif
Shutter Actuation #6

Looking around for things to take pictures of after having unboxed the camera, I didn't really know how to use it, but snapped this picture of a dried red rose sitting in a vase on the kitchen counter. I like how it came out. It was my sixth shot with the camera.

I like how the foreground light totally overshadows the background, making it unseen.

I wonder if this isn't some kind of metaphor for marriage (or any relationship), to concentrate on the bright foreground, not allowing subtle distractions in the background from, er, distracting you.

Thanks for 10 years, my honey. I'll work hard to make the next 10 even better....

All 10 comments so far, oldest first...

Whew! Sure glad you explained your version of what that photo of the desiccated rose had to do with your anniversary. I was still blinking as I read it. Loved also the explanation of the fish. But especially was taken with the wedding photo and how tiny Fumie’s hands disappeared beneath yours. Did Anthony wonder why he wasn ‘t in the photo? Congratulations again, and here’s to many more,( like ours.) Love from Mom and Dad Friedl

— comment by Grandma Friedl on May 17th, 2008 at 1:41am JST (15 years ago) comment permalink

Congratulations! Wow – 10 years already. And Fumie still looks just as young and pretty as she did in wedding photos.
I love the fish – tell Anthony his Aunt Marci would have decided to go with the eating of the chocolate first 🙂

— comment by Marcina on May 17th, 2008 at 2:50am JST (15 years ago) comment permalink

Congratulations, and thanks for the Japanese culture titbit about the fish. Love those little details.

— comment by Gustaf Erikson on May 17th, 2008 at 3:31am JST (15 years ago) comment permalink

Congratulationsto you and Fumie-san! ! Have a nice 10th-year!!

— comment by Chiharu on May 17th, 2008 at 4:11am JST (15 years ago) comment permalink

Congrats! Jeffrey! 🙂
I also had the same dumbfounded view shared by your mom in the first comment…LOL

I’m not sure how I found you, but I really enjoy reading your blog; especially with the warm family atmosphere to it. (Not to mention the occasional geeky technocrat comment)

BTW – Love the photos you take.

— comment by Bob on May 17th, 2008 at 6:17am JST (15 years ago) comment permalink

Congratulations, Jeffrey. Enjoyed the story about the fish.

Best wishes for many more!


— comment by Chris on May 17th, 2008 at 10:22am JST (15 years ago) comment permalink

Hi! I love looking at your beautiful photos, and reading your posts.
Not sure how I found your blog, but its always in my bookmark.
Also, I think your son goes to the same youchien as I did many years ago !
I love the omedetai tai apple pie. Looks very yummy. And lastly, congrats to your 10th anniversary 🙂

— comment by monchy on May 17th, 2008 at 10:35am JST (15 years ago) comment permalink

Congratulations on your anniversary! That wedding picture is excellent. I hope someday i can have a sea bream pie too.

– Andrew (3 months until my first)

— comment by Andrew S on May 19th, 2008 at 6:25am JST (15 years ago) comment permalink

Congrats Jeffrey. It is funny but my tenth anniversary was just 4 days before yours. 1998 was a good year! Best wishes to you.

— comment by Beau on May 20th, 2008 at 11:15pm JST (15 years ago) comment permalink

My son is some months older than yours one, but we just got married 2 months before his birth. 🙂

— comment by Anne on September 9th, 2012 at 8:18pm JST (10 years, 9 months ago) comment permalink
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