{"id":137,"date":"2006-01-27T21:37:08","date_gmt":"2006-01-27T12:37:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/regex.info\/blog\/2006-01-27\/137"},"modified":"2006-01-27T21:37:08","modified_gmt":"2006-01-27T12:37:08","slug":"giving-candy-to-a-baby-and-other-faux-pas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/regex.info\/blog\/2006-01-27\/137","title":{"rendered":"Giving Candy to a Baby, and other Faux Pas"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\n\n
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\n\nWe were at Kansai International Airport yesterday, seeing Fumie's mom off\non a trip<\/span> to Hawaii (finally taking a trip<\/span> with some friends, first planned\n10 years ago!). Afterwards we went up to the airport-view restaurant to\nhave a drink<\/span> and some snacks (Anthony got to have a $5 orange juice!), and\nwatch the planes take off. It was late<\/span> and Anthony was tired, but he\nbehaved himself wonderfully, and as we were paying the bill, the waiter\ngrabbed a big<\/span> handful of candy and gave it to Anthony.\n\n<\/p>

\n\nOn the surface this was a kind gesture. Certainly, kids love candy, and he\nwanted to make Anthony happy, and that's a wonderful<\/span> sentiment that any\nparent appreciates.\n\n<\/p>\n\n

\n\nBut it's also a dangerous thing, because while it's fine if the child can\nhave what's given, it only creates pain and trouble if the child is not\nallowed to have what's given (say, due to allergies or diabetes.... or\nbecause his parents generally don't give him candy and don't want to start\nnow).\n\n<\/p>

\n\nAnthony has a lifetime of junk food ahead of him, so at three years old, we\ndon't feel the need to pump him full of it now. At home he<\/span> drinks milk,\nwater, or barley (non-caffeinated) tea, and he's quite happy with it. He\ndoesn't know he's missing junk-food drinks like soda and “fruit-flavored\njuicy drinks”. When we go out to a restaurant,<\/span> he's allowed to have juice\n(orange, apple, etc.).\n\n<\/p>

\n\nWe almost never give chips or sweets or chocolates or any host of junk\nfoods. He doesn't feel deprived at all, because he doesn't know what he's\nmissing. He loves<\/span> raisins and dried blueberries and cherry tomatoes and\nstrawberries as snacks. Occasionally, we'll have cake or something, but he\nknows that these are during special times, and that makes them all the more\nspecial.\n\n<\/p>

\n\nAnyway, if you are ever in the situation like the waiter and want to give a\nkid<\/span> a treat,<\/span> ask the parents first. And do so<\/span> out of earshot (or with a\nlinguistic<\/span> level beyond the understanding of the kid), or it's the same as\njust giving it (because it makes just as much trouble saying “no” when\nasked as when given).\n\n<\/p>

\n\nI've found myself a number of times having some snack or other with Anthony\n(aforementioned fruits, etc.) and had a two<\/span>- or three-year-old kid look\nwith those I-really-want-some-too eyes. I ask the<\/span> parents, and normally\nit's fine that I go<\/span> ahead and share with the kid, but there have been times\nwhen they've said no (one was allergies, and one I don't<\/span> know), so I just<\/span>\nfinished up quickly and put it away.\n\n<\/p>

\n\nFrankly, I wouldn't have thought about this issue prior to having a kid<\/span>\nmyself. But now that<\/span> I have,<\/span> I'll go ahead and share this advice with my\nvast readership. \ud83d\ude42\n\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

We were at Kansai International Airport yesterday, seeing Fumie's mom off on a trip to Hawaii (finally taking a trip with some friends, first planned 10 years ago!). Afterwards we went up to the airport-view restaurant to have a drink and some snacks (Anthony got to have a $5 orange juice!), and watch the planes take off. It was late and Anthony was tired, but he behaved himself wonderfully, and as we were paying the bill, the waiter grabbed a big handful of candy and gave it to Anthony. <\/p>

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